Relax it’s just sex

Relax it’s just sex ( that is if there is no prior D/s agreement )! We feel the need to post this for some of the new to the life individuals who have misconceptions about BDSM. The individual may have read one of of the more popular BDSM novel series, that we believe is about Read More …

Consent vs. Assent: Why is Assent a better way to obtain Consent?

Consent vs. Assent: Why is Assent a better way to obtain Consent? OK, I am going to start this off with the Definitions of these two Terms from Dictionary.com: Consent: Verb: to permit, approve, or agree; comply or yield (often followed by to or an infinitive): He consented to the proposal. We asked her permission, Read More …

Yes Means Yes, Assault, Victim Blaming and What to do about it.

I’ve written about this before.  Not as articulate though. Simply put, someone did a bad and is trying to blame the victim and people are trying to let it happen because otherwise they need to take responsibility for not paying attention or investigating at the time it happened or giving the victim the support needed Read More …

Beginners to BDSM

Beginners to BDSM We often get emails on how to start your journey into BDSM, no matter what you identify with ( Dominant or submissive ) you’ve got to start somewhere. Reading books are fine, some really good books on the subject are around. However getting to know adults of like mind is the key Read More …