BDSM GLOSSARY – M

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Manga: Usually refers to comics when used in English, a style of drawing developed in Japan in the late 19th Century. Popular with sex/BDSM artists, depicting all kinds of sex, bondage, S&M acts. anime is the animated version.

Masochist: A person who enjoys receiving pain or humiliation. May or may not be sexual. (Also pain slut.)

Master: 1. Owner of a submissive or slave. 2. Someone who is eminently skilled in some area example: a Master whip maker.

Master/slave or M/s: A consensual relationship in which the Master has ownership of the slave. A relatively intense form of D/s relationship. The relationship is more likely to be 24/7.

Mental bondage (psychological bondage): Being forced to remain in a position by orders of the Dominant.  Or to follow the orders, or perceived orders, of another more dominant or domineering person.

Mentor: A tutor, a coach, a guide, a trusted counselor. A Mentor generally does not have the same degree of authority as a Dominant. A Mentor may, when the time comes, assist the student in finding a partner, and ensure that safe meeting practices are followed. Many feel that a Mentor should be on the “same side of the whip” (Dom/Dom or sub/sub); others feel that a Dom to sub or sub to Dom relationship is more effective, as one can “practice” role play and physical techniques.

Merkin: An artificial “beard” for the female genitals. Origin, about 1450: females would shave their hair to prevent pubic lice, and a merkin restored their “normal” look. Worn by male actors portraying females in nude scenes onstage. Recently used in movies when a more “natural” look is called for in a nude scene. There are also decorative versions, which might be used in clubs where complete nudity is “not quite” allowed.

Metamour: The lover of your lover. In a V structure poly relationship, the metamours would be the two people at the top of the V.

Microbranding (see cell popping): The process of creating single-pore burns.

Mindfuck: (see squick, 'deer in the headlights'): To toy with one's concept of reality; to cause a state of confusion and befuddlement.

Mistress: (1) Owner of a submissive or slave. (2) A woman who has special skills prized in the BDSM community (as in ropes Mistress).

Monitor (or spotter): A person who volunteers to oversee the safety and well-being of a bottom/sub during intense scenes or edge play when a "second pair of eyes" is called for, when more than two people are involved in a scene, or spectators could become a concern. Not to be confused with a Dungeon Monitor (DM)

Mouth bit: See bit.

MTF: Male-to-Female aka Trans.

Mummification: Immobilizing the body by wrapping it up, usually with multiple layers of shrink wrap or food film. Creates a feeling of total bodily helplessness. Sometimes used as an element of sensory deprivation. SAFETY ISSUES: Breathing restrictions, chilling or overheating, "freak out" from bondage. A pair of bandage scissors (blunt tips) is recommended to quickly remove the bondage, and the subject should never be left unattended.

Munch: A meeting of a group of kinksters at a "vanilla" place such as a club or restaurant, usually for discussion, not play. Munches are often used to introduce (and evaluate) prospective club members before giving them sensitive information, such as the location of meetings or play parties, or identifying information of any club members. Some munches do have the privacy to allow light play, so it is best to contact the organizers before you go along if you are in doubt, in order to know what to expect.

We always suggest that the New to the BDSM Lifestylers first go to a munch near them, or even travel to another munch close by. Often the reason for this is the individual does not wish to bump into a co-worker or BIO family member.

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