BDSM GLOSSARY – F

F

Face fcuking: Forceful action to person to perform fellatio on a penis or phallic object, such as a dildo.

Facesitting, face sitting (see queening): Practice in which one partner sits on or over the other's face, typically to allow, or force, oral-genital or oral-anal contact. Several styles of furniture (see queening bench) have been designed to facilitate this act.

Failsafe (see "out"): An arrangement which allows the bottom to escape from bondage in case of emergency. May be used when a Dominant has a medical condition which may incapacitate him; or the participants may agree to it as a general safety policy, “just in case.”

Fall: The striking end of a singletail or flogger.

Family - Leather (usually capitalized): A grouping of three or more individuals in a relationship; usually (not always) living together. Can be organized around any number of relationship structures, including leather, polyamorous, polygamous, or “traditional” family with a daddy, mommy, and age-playing “children.” The structure can be informal and fluid, or rigid and well-defined. Usually headed by a paternal Dominant, male or female.

Fantasy rape: A Consensual “rape” scene. Also rape play.

Fear play (psychological play): Playing with a real fear in a safe and controlled manner. May be used to help a submissive get over a fear or "push" a limit, or simply for the Dominant's gratification.

Fellatio: Oral sex performed on the penis. Sometimes used referring to a dildo or other phallic object.

Felching: Licking/sucking fluids (usually semen) from someone's orifice.

FemDom: A relationship in which the Dominant is female. Usually refers more specifically to a relationship between a female Dominant and a male submissive; the reverse of MDom.

Feminization: To be "forced" to dress up as a female, usually in frilly, lacy clothing and exaggerated makeup. Thought of as a derogatory activity...

Femme: An overtly feminine dressing/acting lesbian (as opposed to butch). Sometimes used to describe a gay man. This does not necessarily define the person’s role in a sexual or D/s relationship.

Fetish: Sexual excitement aroused by a specific object, body part, or activity not usually associated with sexual arousal. (See fetishist below.)

Fetishist: One who gains sexual excitement through a fetish. In extreme cases, one may be unable to attain sexual gratification without the presence of the fetish object (or at least fantasizing about it).

Figging: The act of inserting a prepared "finger" of ginger root or chili pepper into the anus. The burning sensation is said to induce intense pleasure. Safety note: Be sure it is secured in a manner that it can be removed!

”fire and ice” (see wax play): Play involving the use of hot wax alternating with ice or ice water.

Fire play: Using flammable liquids to create quick, fleeting instances of flame on the skin of the bottom. Caution: this is considered edge play, and should be studied with one experienced in the practice.

Floating (see aftercare, subspace, endorphin high): How subspace is often described by submissives.

Flogger: A tool of impact play, consisting of a handle with multiple lashes attached to it. The lashes are typically made of leather, but may also be made of materials such as rope, suede, horsehair, or even rubber.  

Florentine - Flogging: A artistic flogging technique involving the use of a flogger in each hand. The floggers are swung in a figure-8 pattern.

Fluid exchange: Any activity in which bodily fluids may be exchanged, including mouth-to-mouth, mouth-to-genital, or genital-to-genital. Also includes any contact with blood or with the anus (even though the latter isn't usually "fluid"). Fluid exchange activities are often prohibited at play parties, except with one's own partner(s), for health reasons. Similarly, one is often requested to “bring your own toys” (BYOT), which should never be shared.

Flying: see floating

Foot worship: To ritually respect the Dominant’s feet, commonly by sucking, kissing, and/or licking. May include washing, pedicures, etc.

Forced orgasm: An orgasm induced in a person against that person's will, or despite their having been denied permission to orgasm.

Freakout: see panic attack.

French, Frenching: (1) Of or related to oral sex. (2) French kissing refers to inserting the tongue into the other person’s mouth.

Frottage: Rubbing of the body against a person or object for arousal.

FTM:  Trans or Transgender, female to male

Furry: One who assumes an animal’s character in play. May wear a costume, but usually only “tokens” representing the animal; for example, ears, makeup, tail, or animal-print clothing.

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