BDSM GLOSSARY – A

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1950s, 1960s (etc) era: Refers to relationships based on the mores and practices of the time period; generally a monogamous, heterosexual, male-led relationship. Similarities with Christian domestic discipline (CDD), taken in hand (TIH) practices. Definition: Think “Leave It To Beaver” with a dungeon in the basement….

24/7 (see TPE): A D/s relationship which is in effect at all times. A Total Power Exchange, or TPE, relationship would be the most extreme form of 24/7; some consider the terms equivalent.

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Abduction Play: See kidnapping

Abrasion Play: Using something rough (such as sandpaper or scrub brush) to provide stimulation. May leave temporary marks; some may go so far as to draw blood, in which case infection prevention is important.

Adult baby (see diaper lover): One who dresses and/or role plays the part of a baby or toddler.

Aftercare (see Dom drop, sub drop, subspace): The time after a BDSM scene or play session in which the participants calm down, and slowly come back in touch with reality. Depending on the intensity of the scene and the nature of the participants, aftercare may be very important to one or both participants in order to prevent later emotional aftereffects. Aftercare may consist of some or all of the following components: Being away from noise, activity, bright light; physical closeness and touching with the partner; hydration with water or sport drink; keeping warm. Aside from its necessity, aftercare can be one of the most rewarding and loving experiences the participants can share.

Age play: Scene (or entire relationship) in which one person (usually the submissive) dresses and acts as if younger in age, ranging from infant to adult child. May or may not include sexual relations. Does not usually include or imply aspects of incest or inappropriateness with minors,* but rather the nurturing relationship of parent/child or teacher/student.

Algolagnia: Deriving sexual pleasure from the application of pain to an erogenous zone

Anal Sex: Intercourse involving the Anus

Anal hook: Often used in suspension bondage, it is placed in the anal opening and used as part of the suspension.

Anal torture (also see figging): Inflicting pain on the anus. Keep in mind that this flesh is tender and easily damaged (ouch)!

Anal training: Inserting progressively larger objects (usually butt plugs) in order to stretch the anal sphincter, in preparation for such activities as anal sex and fisting. Safety note: Should proceed slowly and cautiously in order to reduce the risk of hemorrhoids or worse problems; the recipient should always be in control of the insertion.

Androgyny: Showing characteristics of both sexes.

Animal play: (see pet play, ponygirl , ponyboy, pup-play) The sub behaves and/or dresses like an animal. The principal theme of animal role play is usually the voluntary or involuntary reduction (or transformation) of a human being to animal (see objectification). Animal role play may or may not involve sexual activity. Not to be mistaken with illegal activities..

Animal transformation fantasy: Fantasy in which the focus is on the sub entering the altered mind space of a different species.

Anime: A style of animated cartoon developed in Japan in the 1960s. See manga.

Asexual: (1.) Lacking interest in or desire for sex. (2.) Dressing and presenting oneself in such a way that it is hard to determine one’s sex from their appearance. (3.) Objectification: A person who is treated and referred to (examples, “it”, “slave”, “pet”) as if they had no sex.

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