So what is respect? How do you give it and how do you recognize it when it’s given?
The Dictionary defines it as follows;
1. Admire (someone or something) deeply, as a result of their abilities, qualities, or achievements
2. Have due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of
3. Avoid harming or interfering with
4. Agree to recognize and abide by.
1. A feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements
2. The state of being admired in such a way
3. Due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others
4. A person's polite greetings
5. A particular aspect, point, or detail
So, as a Verb and Noun the word Respect would indicate that you should Respect someone you admire for whatever reason, having due regard for a persons' feelings, wishes, right and traditions.
How do we do this? Pleasant tones, not presuming, admiring the positive points of a person’s ability, quality or achievements are a good start, now how to display or communicated this?
A good start is the handshake, or kissing of the hand if so presented. Bows and curtsy's, not touching when where or what without permission, holding the door open for someone else, recognizing that someone else’s views are not always yours even if they are in the same Society, are all a part of this.
“… Respecting other people means recognizing their value as human beings, regardless of their background, race, or creed. A respectful person would also never treat a salesperson, a waiter, or an office assistant as somehow inferior. Respect is demonstrated in all your day-to-day relations — refraining from demeaning others for their ideas and opinions, refusing to laugh at racist or sexist jokes, putting prejudices aside, and staying open-minded. Self-respect is just as important as respect for others. A self-confident person isn’t boastful or pushy but is secure with herself in a way that inspires confidence in others. She values herself regardless of her physical attributes or individual talents, understanding that honor and character are what really matter.” – Emily & Peggy Post - Etiquette
So what does this mean for me as an Escort, Avon rep, and Submissive?
I believe that this means I should treat the other person with the respect and consideration that I would like to receive, not what I believe I will receive, but what I would like to receive. Shake the hand if held that way or kiss it if it is extended that way, I will not presume that what they have said is more than what has been offered, I will not presume that the way they are dressed is to entice me in a sexual manner nor touch them more than what has been offered. I will not presume to judge someone for their preferences. I will take into consideration what they display to and towards me is not my point of view or beliefs and that they are entitled to their beliefs' just as I am entitled to mine.
What does this mean for how to treat and escort? Treat her, him or other as you would any other employee or person with the exception that they are paid up-front. Do not presume to add something to the previously negotiated list without the compensation being renegotiated or not being able to cover the renegotiation.
Bathe, regularly and before coming to the appointment. Do not try to put me down or degrade me as this will lessen your experience not enhance it. I am a teacher, a confidant, and a lover. I am not a therapist nor a counsellor.
There is No Law, Rule, nor Protocol that says Dominants and Clients cannot be Gentlemen, gentlewomen, or gentle persons. Being one makes me want to see you again and again. I have been known to give discounts for respecting me and my Profession.
I appreciate everyone who grants me Respect, you are unfortunately a minority these days in my experience and opinion. Perhaps more people with realize that Respect is Earned or Granted and that by Granting it “on credit” yields a return that is immeasurable.
Original Posting: 14-Aug-2011